Monday 31 May 2010

WHEN YOU GET YOURSELF UNDER COMPLETE CONTROL, YOU CAN BE YOUR OWN BOSS.

We all have moments when we allow others to cause us to react emotionally, especially in anger. Often we regret our response later, and we vow we will never allow ourselves to behave in this fashion again. The next time you feel the anger rising, remind yourself that no one can make you angry or emotional without your consent-indeed, your active participation is required. Those who have learned to manage themselves are the individuals who are destined to be leaders. They are chosen to manage others because they have demonstrated that they can manage themselves. They are people of character.

Sunday 30 May 2010

A MOST BENEFICIAL USE OF TIME IS SILENT MEDITATION, WHILE SEARCHING FOR GUIDANCE FROM WITHIN.

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We all experience rare moments when a blinding revelation comes to us, when we suddenly see things differently than ever before. Usually, however, we learn the truth about ourselves gradually, over long periods of time, from quiet introspection. We are all spiritual, but some of us have learned to tap more effectively into the great strength that resides in the spiritual portion of ourselves. The spirit is not boisterous and noisy. Getting in touch with your spiritual self demands tranquillity and solitude. Make sure you dedicate a portion of every day to thought and study, to think and reflect upon your life. Choose a time and place that best allow you to relax your mind and devote your thoughts to reflection.

IF YOU HAVE MORE ENEMIES THAN FRIENDS, THE ODDS ARE A THOUSAND TO ONE YOU HAVE EARNED THEM.

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Abraham Lincoln once observed, "You may fool all the people some of the time; you can even fool some of the people all the time; but you can’t fool all of the people all the time." Regardless of how cleverly you package yourself, others will eventually see through your masquerade and recognize you for what you really are. As a general rule, people will accept you for what you say you are until you prove yourself to be otherwise. Don’t take advantage of the goodwill of others. Make friends, not enemies.

Friday 28 May 2010

SOUND CHARACTER BEGINS WITH KEEN SELF-RESPECT.

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No one really knows for sure how we develop self-respect, but the experts believe it begins at a very early age. Parents who show their children that they love them unconditionally just because they are who they are build a foundation of healthy self-respect that will sustain the children for the rest of their lives. From this foundation comes the moral and ethical structure known as character. Healthy self-respect should not be confused with egotism. An egotist loves himself for the most superficial of reasons, while a self-respecting person takes pride in qualities of character that he or she has worked hard to develop.

SELF-RESPECT IS THE BEST MEANS OF GETTING THE RESPECT OF OTHERS.

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Have you known people who can’t stand to be alone for any length of time? The chances are good that those folks don’t like themselves very much. They need others around constantly to validate their own existence. Sadly, the people who need others the most are usually those whom others least like to be around. Because they don’t like themselves, other people seldom do either. The surest way to command the respect of others is to become a person you like being around. Identify the characteristics you admire in others and make a conscious effort to develop them yourself. Your self-respect begins to grow the moment you decide to take the first step toward becoming the kind of person you know you can be a success.

Wednesday 26 May 2010

DON’T LOOK TO THE STARS FOR THE CAUSE OF YOUR MISFORTUNES LOOK TO YOURSELF TO GET BETTER RESULTS.

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There are many things you cannot control, but you can control the only things that really matter: your mind and your attitude. External forces have very little to do with success. Those who program themselves for success find a way to succeed even in the most difficult of circumstances. Solutions to most problems come from one source and one source alone: yourself. Living life to the fullest is a lot like shooting the rapids in a rubber raft. Once you’ve made the commitment, it’s difficult to change your mind, turn around, and paddle upstream to placid waters. But it’s the excitement and adventure that make it all worthwhile. If you never make the attempt, you may never know the depths of despair, but neither will you experience the exhilaration of success.

GREAT ACHIEVEMENT IS BORN OF A STRUGGLE.

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"Our strength grows out of our weakness," said Ralph Waldo Emerson. "Not until we are pricked and stung and sorely shot at, awakens the indignation which arms itself with secret forces." Strife and struggle can inspire you to overcome adversity and to propel yourself to real achievement. View every struggle as an opportunity for personal growth. It is the struggle itself, not the result that builds character. If you know you are right, stay the course even though the whole world seems to be against you and everyone you know questions your judgment. When you prevail-and you eventually will if you stick to the job-they will all tell you that they knew all along you could do it.

Tuesday 25 May 2010

THE INDIVIDUAL WHO HAS TIME ONLY FOR GOSSIP AND SLANDER IS TOO BUSY FOR SUCCESS.

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Each of us has a finite amount of time, energy, and money; you must choose for yourself how you will spend them. If you elect to squander your resources by demeaning others in an attempt to advance your own interests, you will soon find that so much of your time and energy has been spent on gossip and slander that you have little time left for yourself. If you deal in malicious information, you’ll rarely be trusted. As the saying goes, "Those who talk about others to us will talk about us to others."

Monday 24 May 2010

POLITENESS USUALLY BEGINS AT HOME OR IT DOESN’T BEGIN AT ALL.

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Politeness to others is usually born out of respect for the individual, which you learn as a child. When you are treated with respect by other members of the family, you learn to respect them as well. The self-esteem that results from being recognized as a unique person by the people who matter most to you helps you develop the confidence necessary to succeed later in life. Politeness and consideration for others are habits that-once developed-usually stay with you for a lifetime. While common courtesy may seem relatively insignificant in the grand scheme of things, it is a reflection of more basic values. More important, if you develop the habit of respecting others, you are likely to command respect from them.

Saturday 22 May 2010

TOO MUCH TRUTH WILL MAKE SOME PEOPLE MADDER THAN TOO LITTLE.

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Schoolchildren sometimes play a game called "Honesty." The rules are simple: For a designated period of time, the participants must tell the truth regardless of the subject. They then ask each other leading questions such as, "Do you like my hair?" "Do you think Lindsay is cute?" Inevitably someone gets angry when he or she discovers that these friends had been shading the truth, telling "little white lies," to spare the person’s feelings. Even when the game is over, its lessons are not soon forgotten. Being honest with others doesn’t mean being brutal. It isn’t necessary to tell people everything you don’t like about them under the guise of being frank with them "for their own good." Sometimes it’s better if we don’t know every person’s innermost feelings about us. Respect for another’s self-esteem often means telling them too little truth instead of too much.

IT’S MIGHTY EASY TO JUSTIFY DISHONESTY IF YOU MAKE YOUR LIVING FROM IT.

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The subconscious mind makes no moral judgments. If you tell yourself something over and over, your subconscious mind will eventually accept even the most blatant lie as fact. Those whose lives and careers have been destroyed by dishonest behavior began the process of self-destruction when they convinced themselves that one slight infraction of the rules wouldn’t matter. When you sell yourself on an idea, make sure the idea is positive, beneficial to you, and harmless to others. Just as negative thoughts and deeds return to their originator, so do positive ones. When you practice honest, ethical behavior, you set in motion a force for good that will return to you many times over.

Thursday 20 May 2010

HONESTY IS A SPIRITUAL QUALITY THAT CANNOT BE EVALUATED IN TERMS OF MONEY.

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There are many practical reasons to practice honesty. It requires far less effort to be truthful than to be deceitful, and in the long term the risks are fewer and the rewards greater. But in today’s complex society, the boundaries of acceptable behavior have been blurred until they are sometimes indistinguishable. Laws and codes of ethics establish minimum standards of behavior. Make sure you establish standards for yourself that exceed such minimums, a standard below which you will not allow yourself to fall, regardless of what others may do or say. Your own set of standards will allow you to decide quickly and easily upon an appropriate course of action when faced with a difficult problem. persevere in the face of great odds.

BANKERS OFTEN LEND MONEY ON CHARACTER, BUT SELDOM ON REPUTATION ALONE, FOR THEY HAVE LEARNED THAT NOT ALL REPUTATIONS ARE DESERVED.

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When considering a loan, a banker attaches great importance to three things: the borrower’s ability to repay the loan, the borrower’s credit history, and the borrower’s character. The first two considerations can be calculated mathematically; the third requires judgment and experience. Prudent bankers have learned that persons of character are always a good risk because they take their obligations seriously while those who spend their resources on the trappings of success should be avoided at all costs. Protect your good reputation as you would protect your home, your investments, and your life. Once shattered, a good reputation can only be regained by those who have developed the courage and willpower to persevere in the face of great odds.

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Wednesday 19 May 2010

YOU ARE EITHER HONEST OR DISHONEST. THERE CAN BE NO COMPROMISE BETWEEN THE TWO.

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Officials who deal with fraud and theft say they are often amazed at the small amounts of money some people will steal. Some people will sell their integrity for a pittance. To those individuals, dishonest behavior is not an occasional occurrence-it is a way of life. Those who lie about insignificant things or steal trivial amounts of money will develop the habit of lying and stealing. As you look back on your own behavior, can you do so with pride in the knowledge that you have always been honest? If you cannot, perhaps it is time to think about the times when you chose dishonest behavior. Why did you do it? Was it worth it? Wouldn’t the consequences of being honest and truthful have been far better in those circumstances? Learn from your mistakes and vow that from this day forward you will always be honest.

-The Cat In That Hat

Monday 17 May 2010

FALSEHOOD DOES EVERMORE HAVE A WAY OF PUBLISHING ITSELF.

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Image by Getty Images via @daylifeIt is virtually impossible to conceal the truth forever. It is the natural order of things that the truth will eventually come out. This single fact is the foundation of our judicial system and the basis on which all human relationships are formed. A business, professional, or personal relationship built upon a lie cannot long endure, but one that is founded on truth and equality of benefit for the participants is unlimited. Make it a practice to tell the truth in all that you do-even when it doesn’t matter-and you will form a habit of truthfulness. You will know instinctively that it is better to tell the truth and face the consequences than to launch a falsehood that will eventually make itself known to the world. of what others think.

Can you imagine, going to work on only two and a half hours sleep?

Can you imagine, the reason being that your neighbour had friends over and they insisted on playing bongo drums amplifying their guitars and screaming at the top of their voices “We will we will rock you!” 'til

3 o'clock in the morning? You look up and find your light fittings moving thru 180 degrees above the heads of yourself and your partner. It's at that moment you realize he and his friends are literally jumping off a stage he had built in his living room,in the apartment above you. Can you imagine how that feels?

Over a five and a half year period this happens every night,you are flooded thirteen times and never receive an apology. You complain to to local housing office, who tell you ,you live in an inner city estate, “so live with it!” You contact the police and ask for assistance over one hundred times and they do nothing but say, you are “over reacting”.You send emails to every member of parliament,only to be told protocol,they can't or wont do anything,sorry!

So record everything, you present the evidence to the powers that be and they say, it's not enough evidence, so you publish it all on the Internet. In other words you “Name and Shame” just like the Police do, just like the Newspapers do and what happens?

You get arrested nine times over eighteen months,you are paraded in front of magistrates and judges to be told that you are intolerant, your behaviour is unreasonable and because you can string more than a few sentences together you are pedantic. You lose your job, your health deteriorates to to point where, when you go to the toilet you shit blood !

You can't tell your story because you are told over and over that it is harassment. The videos that you took and the vicious racial abuse that you recorded are uploaded to the internet and they accuse you of harassing the person who has been harassing you for five and a half years. What is the final outcome you're wondering? They re-house him give him a beautiful new apartment and guess what they increase his benefits. The victim gets a criminal record, all he wanted to do was to live in peace. Can you believe this story? Is it fact or fiction?

Shahbaz Alexis Esq.aka-"The Cat In That Hat"

Victim Of Anti-Social Behaviour ; Racism

Sept 2004- April 2009

Author Of The First Ever Practical BluePrint Of

"How To Overcome Anti-Social Behaviour."

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